Dating 101 (Part 2)

This is the second part of my Dating 101. Happy reading!

Woot! Its dating time!

Timing. You should be early or at least reach there on time. Letting your date wait is really of bad taste.

Open Your Mouth. The worse thing a date can start is when both don't really talk much. So try to break the ice. I find complimenting your date as a good ice breaker especially for guys. Girls like to feel pretty so telling them that they look nice is a good start (for the guys - please do not stare at her boobs / cleavage while telling her how pretty she is.... you might get a tight slap!).

Make your date feel important. When your on a date, do make sure its between 2 people. Roaming eyes (oohh.... that hunk / babe looks delicious), lost of concentration to the big screen tv (Liverpool vs Man U...woahhh!!) or the likes are a BIG NO NO. Try to listen to what your date is saying and ask questions about interest, likes and dislikes. If both of you have something in common then build on that conversation. Oh yeah.... please call your date by name (so no wei!, oi!, sugar, leng chai or leng lui. Not close yet so better don't mengada-ngada kay! Your partner might get turned off). If your the talkative type please stop if you realise your the only one talking for the last 10 minutes. Some people are slower to respond and by you talking all the time, they won't have chance to respond. Try having the conversations back and forth. For those that have no idea what to ask or talk about, its always good to ask general questions. Try not to ask yes and no questions too. That would make the conversation very boring. For example, if your asking about work, don't ask "do you like your boss?" but try using "tell me about your relationship with your boss". The latter will give you a much more fruitful conversation.

Respect your date. This is important. Be polite and do say thank you when you are being complimented. This will portray yourself as being a confident person and many people like a person with confidence. To those jokers out there, please control your humour (especially those dirty jokes.... first date is a big no lah). What is funny to you might not be funny to her/him. So test the waters first before you want to say anything adventurous (i am talking about jokes, please do not try to think otherwise :P).

Eye contact. Another big point. When talking to your date, please keep eye contact and not look at the ceiling or your cup of latte. You will look like a dumbass trying to serenade the cup or whatever your looking at. Also try to smile when possible (but not too much lah or your date might think your a 24/7 smiling nut case from tanjung rambutan) as it gives a more relaxing atmosphere.

Chemistry. So the date seems to be doing well. Now what? Make sure you ask another date lah (duhhh!). If you got no guts to ask now at least hint that you would like to go out again. If your date turn out to be somewhat of a disappointment its best to just follow through. I know of a case in which the date didn't go as planned and the guy instead of sending his date home, sent her to the nearest LRT station (please don't do that lah). Respect your date and the effort that he/she had given, smile, thank your date for the day spent and leave.

Home. For the guys especially. Its a good idea to sms or call your date to make sure she is safe home (if she has her own transport). That makes her feel at ease knowing that you care even after both of you have parted.

Final Part : What to do after a date. (You like your date very much. Can't have your date out of my mind... driving me crazy... help!!!)

Stay Tuned.