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After The Date
Follow Up. If you had a fantastic time then call your date the next day, or even the same night if you can't resist (but not if its like 4am in the morning lah... people need sleep and you don't want to sound like a stalker). Don't do the waiting game and wait for the second date. Try to set it up as soon as you can. There is a Chinese saying in this "hit the iron while its hot!". If your date decline your offer, then at least you know where you stand and plan from there.Patience is virtue. If you get rejected for the next date or if the date did not respond when you've done your part, do not feel dejected. Your date may still be interested but genuinely cannot decide. Let it cool for a few days and call again for a follow-up date. If you get rejected again then I am sorry, you may be out of luck.
Never give a false impression. It is not a good idea to lead someone on if you are not interested. You may be showered with calls and care but if you are not into the person just gracefully say no. It may be an ego booster for some but it won't be fair towards the other person. (Some may not agree with me on this part but its my personal opinion).
Whatever the outcome the date maybe, one should just enjoy the process from start to finish. If things really sparkled then congratulations, if it didn't then at least you have widened your circle of friends.
Happy Dating!
7 comments:
Nice posting, thank you,
I wish you a good end of 2007 and a good year of 2008.
guys can always be sooooooo patient before they "get" the girl. after they are together then different story.
David,
Thanks and a happy 2008 to you too
Haan,
Hey, not all guys are like what you said. Thats being a bit stereotype right? :P
So are you the kind of people haan mentioned? =)
I've met a lot of those guys too.
I think i'm not suitable to go dating as in find a partner. I'm not someone who could stay put so changes take place very fast. I know it's my bad but i can't really control it and it'll end up hurting people. So i've decided to lead a solo life, at least for now until maybe when a guy could tie me up for the rest of my life,and his. =)
Flying Fish,
I can say I am not one of the guys that haan mentioned but then again I am far from perfect either. No one is :P
Your young so there shall be a lot more dates in your life thats for sure. Some might be unpleasant and some might leave you a smile. Nevertheless all will lead you forward in the road we call life.
i didn't say all but i'm quite sure most of the guys are like this. we just teased one of my guy friend that day.
he said, the time his gf going back to hometown is a relief for him. can take a little rest. we said what i posted before. and he replied, he's just back to the original himself. while courting the girl, he was was extraordinarily "too good".
so, going back to the normal him at a later time, is just too normal.
too normal!
I personally think thats a bad thing. It gives a false impression to the girl which later finds out that he is the complete different person to the one she once knew.
For the guys there will be constant pressure to "perform" whenever the gf is around.
At the end of the day. Both parties get tired of it.
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