Love

Watched a random series on the dumb box (TV) just now and something that one of the character said caught my mind

"Loving someone till it hurts"

A lot of people say love is a wonderful thing. True if things start and ends well. Unfortunately in this world things are just not that simple. There are many twist and turns in life that we cannot predict. Life's just ain't that fairytale that we have all hoped for.

In this complex cycle we call life I guess love must be one of the most complex subject matter that we human face. Even after so many heart ache and disappointment that we human go through, love is still something that we all yearn and chase for.

The Meaning Of A Successful Relationship

Recently I have been having conversations of how people suffer or complain about their current relationships. Some can be as petty as not calling more then once a day to not being caring enough or even him being a complete "batu or kayu".

This then brings me back to my thinking box. What does a relationship mean?

For me a relationship means 2 person getting together and each being able to fulfill the other person's needs either emotionally, spiritually or even materially. A relationship is about 2 person understanding each other as they move along the winding road we call life while supporting each other along the way.

So what makes a successful relationship?

The success of a relationship is a function of the extent to which it meets the need of two people. If you are happy and contented while your partner is not, that would mean you have not done enough to fulfill your partners needs. If your partner is contented but you are unhappy, then your partner have not done enough to fulfill your needs. Lets all be frank, everyone has needs in their lives. Some of the needs cannot be procured alone and has to be given by the other. For example, we can pamper ourselves with tender loving care but we yearn for tender loving care by our loved one's. So it is important for both parties to know what is needed to fulfill the needs of the other. Tell each other what makes you tick.

A lot of people would complain that their partner do not understand them or do not know how to please them. If that's the case, isn't it your responsibility to TELL your partner what you need? There should be no hesitation to ask or tell the other on what makes you tick. Isn't life about self exploration after all? Do not expect your partner to mind read you. We humans are not able to do such things. Unless you ask or tell, no one would really know what you need. So both should be proactive in understanding the needs of one another in order to build a successful relationship. Do not complain to people that he is not doing enough...TELL HIM/HER.

So here you go, my formula for a long lasting relationship. Of course this is a personal view, so follow at your own risk!! haha

Quotable Quotes

Quotes for all to ponder upon.

Love isn't about finding a perfect person. It's about seeing an imperfect person perfectly. If you're not able to do this, then you don't deserve anyone.

I'm selfish ,impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times too hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at me worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.

Live and Love............

24/11/2007 1.23am

My mind just can't seem to want to go to bed so I woke up and went online. As i was browsing aimlessly on the net, my eyes caught an old link from my long list of addresses bookmarked in my browser. Its an old blog from a dear friend..... the last and final post just blew my mind off for a second.

I won't be linking the blog as I know the original author would not like it to be known.

Nevertheless I wish to share this read with all of you..........

"As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will.

You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken.

You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love.

So take as many pictures, laugh as much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.

Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin."